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Wednesday, March 21st, 2012
12:13 am [alan7388]	Poly in the News: Latest Roundup! The day before a key Republican primary, polys become a political football in a good way. More polyfolks discover they can appear on TV and not die. Joys of poly parenting are described to the world. The feminist roots of modern poly get an airing. And the Polyamory Leadership Network gets its first mention in the New York Times. If you haven't kept up with Polyamory in the News in the last couple months (or subscribed by the LJ friends feed or other feed), here is some of what you missed: ( Read on... ) (Comment on this)
Wednesday, January 25th, 2012
11:07 pm [alan7388]	Polyamory in the News: latest roundup I’m really looking forward to the Poly Living conference coming up February 10-12 in Philadelphia. But meanwhile… time for another news roundup. Newt Gingrich brings a burst of opportunities for people to tell the world about their non-Gingrichy open relationships, the kind built on caring and support all around. Mainstream TV presents several long-term triad families explaining their way of life, plus a fictional one doing the same. Next Gen poly, on and off campus. Dan Savage invites readers to “Meet the Monogamish.” If you haven't kept up with Polyamory in the News in the last couple months (or subscribed by the LJ friends feed or other feed), here’s some of what you missed: ( Read on... ) (Comment on this)
Tuesday, January 24th, 2012
7:47 pm [ashbet]	"But what's important is that they're polyamorous!" Poly family foils attempted mugging in NYC, media coverage spends more time talking about their relationship status than the incident itself. (I don't think the article is BAD, it's just kind of funny that it included sentences like "Fox, who is open about her polyamorous lifestyle, looked at the "weapon," and saw that it appeared to be an L-shaped piece of dark plastic." LOL!) I'm just amused that the end result is that the three of them are now wearing t-shirts that read "Crimefighting Polyamorists of Inwood" ;D (Comment on this)
Saturday, December 10th, 2011
12:55 pm [lederhosen]	(x-posted) Some of the definitions are a bit confused, but overall, this article is surprisingly positive for the Oz. (Comment on this)
Thursday, December 8th, 2011
12:19 am [alan7388]	Polyamory in the News: What the world is saying about us. Hi folks. Time has passed... Here's another news roundup.... Canada legalizes most polyamory in a major court case. Dear Abby gives a platform for a renowned poly advice nurse to reach millions. Open marriage redux. Threesomes naturally. An emergent phenomenon at Occupy Wall Street. And, would your polyfamily like to be media stars? If so, learn how to stay in charge. If you haven't kept up with Polyamory in the News in the last couple months (or subscribed to it by the LJ friends feed or other feed), here’s some of what you missed: ( Read on... ) (1 Comment |Comment on this)
Tuesday, October 11th, 2011
11:21 pm [alan7388]	Polyamory in the News: How the world is seeing us Hi folks! Another season, another news roundup.... Dear Abby treats us like normals, almost. Promoting a poly event in the mainstream media with brains and cute overload. Obliterating a clueless mental-health professional. TV done right. Next-generation voices, teenage and up. And, “with their heads on their shoulders, they create their own identity using tools 2.0.” (That’s supposed to be us.) If you haven't kept up with Polyamory in the News in the last three months (or subscribed to it by the LJ friends feed or other feed), here is some of what you missed: ( Read on... ) (2 Comments |Comment on this)
Sunday, August 21st, 2011
12:18 pm [pocketstarlet]	Where are all the meaningful, casual relationship lovers? Hi all, I'm new to the community, but I've been living a mostly single poly lifestyle for a couple of years now. I have dated around variously, and dated people in more serious relationships, but lately I feel that what I really want from a relationships is just not understood by those around me. To clarify, I'm a 24 year old lesbian living in a semi-rural area, and seems like my friends are all looking for relationships with life partner potential, which is a very foreign idea to me. I'm wondering if any of you relate to my desire for a meaningful, but still casual relationship. I want to be, first and foremost, committed to myself. I am my own life partner, and I want the freedom to pursue my individual life goals without needing them to fit in with another person's plans. I also want independence in my everyday life, I don't want to do everything with the person I am dating. I want my own bedroom, my own hobbies, but I'd still love to have someone around to share the fun things with. I think ideally, I'd love to be in a somewhat steady (i.e. more than a couple of months) but casual open relationship, one where me & my girlfriend hang out a few times a week - go out to have fun, stay in and cuddle, have sex, support each other - but also maintain our own lives. I want the trust and assurance that I'm not a disposable fling, without having to go out and get engaged. I want to enjoy whatever relationship I'm having for as long as it is enjoyable. I want trust, and caring, the same as I want from a friend. I want something light, fun, open, and meaningful, and focused on the present rather than the future. It seems like there must be tons of people who want the same kinds of connections I do, so why are they so hard to find? For those of you who are following a similar path, how do you navigate that neglected space in between casual flings and forever couplings? (11 Comments |Comment on this)
Thursday, August 18th, 2011
8:19 pm [skibbley]	Coming up soon: Polyday in London, England. Saturday 27th August. I'll be there. (Comment on this)
Thursday, August 11th, 2011
7:49 pm [joreth]	Poly Collection Sites Poly Collection Sites! Find poly therapists, movies, music, books, groups, events, clothing, news articles, conferences ... all in one place! Well, one place per topic :-) Most of these websites rely on user submissions, so if you know of something that's missing, add it! Poly-Friendly Professionals: http://www.polychromatic.com/p​fp/main.php Poly Groups: http://www.polygroups.com/ Poly Local Events: https://sites.google.com/site/​polyeventsallover Poly Conferences: http://polyevents.blogspot.com​/ Polyamory In The News: http://polyinthemedia.blogspot​.com/ Poly Movies: http://www.theinnbetween.net/p​olymovies.html Poly Music: http://www.theinnbetween.net/p​olymusic.html Poly Books: http://www.theinbetween.net/po​lybooks.html Poly Symbols: http://www.theinnbetween.net/polysymbols.html Poly clothing & Jewelry: http://polyinthemedia.blogspot​.com/2010/04/poly-jewelry-clot​hing-and-other.html Poly & Sexual Informatics: http://www.xeromag.com/sexualinformatics.html Feel free to repost this, with or without credit, wherever you want. The more links to a webpage that the page has, the higher Google rankings it gets, so that other people will be able to find it when they search for its keywords. (Comment on this)
Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011
8:13 am [alan7388]	Polyamory in the News: how the world is seeing us. Hi folks! Another season, another news roundup.... In Washington, a U.S. Senate committee hears testimony about the polyamory threat to America. “The New Monogamy,” i.e. non-monogamy, takes off in the mainstream media. Polyamorous polygamists file a legal challenge in federal court and could actually win. Triads and quads “redefining love’s boundaries” are featured on TV evening news. If you haven't kept up with Polyamory in the News in the last three months (or subscribed to it by the LJ friends feed or other feed), here is some of what you missed: ( Read on... ) (Comment on this)
Friday, July 1st, 2011
12:37 pm [triadruid]	Good article by Mark Oppenheimer, with help from Dan Savage http://www.nytimes.com/2011/07/03/magazine/infidelity-will-keep-us-together.html (2 Comments |Comment on this)
Friday, June 3rd, 2011
1:56 pm [infiniteimp]	Update and Request for Info Hi everyone First I'd like to thank everyone who took time to respond to my last frantic post. I had some frank conversation with my sweetie and it turns out that what I thought he had said, he had not in fact said. His wife is fine with us being together, has been happy to talk about it with me, and is happy for me to be in their house. Her issue arises only from me sleeping in their house with my sweetie, as their kids are an issue in that regard. No dramas. The drama llama that hit me was my husband hitting the veto button last weekend. It was unexpected and completely arbitrary. It appears to be tied up with his self esteem as he is convinced I'm going to leave him. We also have a codependency issue that I hadn't realised the full extent of. So I had sort of a miserable week this week. Despite saying in the past that he wouldn't, my husband has now said that he is willing to see a poly friendly counsellor with a view to dealing with his emotional issues and perhaps to see if he can be helped to see what good can come from me having a relationship with my sweetie as well. So I've come to ask if anyone knows poly friendly counsellors in Australia, or alternatively (aside from the obvious) what types of questions I could ask before making appointments to ascertain the counsellor's level of poly friendliness. Thanks everyone.   Current Mood: discontent (10 Comments |Comment on this)
Wednesday, May 11th, 2011
1:44 pm [infiniteimp]	Advice Please? Many thanks to the people who provided feedback on my thoughts on changing relationship frameworks. I come to you now in a state of high agitation and need perspective, advice and support. My sweetie has been talking with his spouse about him and I having a relationship. I'm given to understand that she is fine with the whole concept, yet has placed certain restrictions on our activities. Some restrictions I understand completely. The rest... not so much. ( Whoops. Cut for saving your flist ) Current Mood: frustrated (36 Comments |Comment on this)
Friday, May 6th, 2011
8:39 am [infiniteimp]	Hi There I've only recently joined this com, mainly because poly is quite new to my primary and I. He has been asking himself why I would want to be poly after years of being mono, and I think he may be concerned that if I can change my mind about my relationship framework I could just as easily change my mind about being in a relationship with him. So I sat down last night and tried to put some words together on my poly LJ to explain myself. I'm not terribly good with words, but if anyone is interested in having a look at what I wrote, the post is public and here. Please be gentle. I'm suffering from a bad headcold and the post is probably a bit disjointed. I'd welcome advice or comments. Anyway, I hope this is allowed. The com info said that intro posts would only be tolerated for a while so I'm not sure if this is ok or not.  Mods if I've done something wrong please let me know and I'll make amends. :) (6 Comments |Comment on this)
Monday, October 4th, 2010
4:42 pm [fishes8]	How safe is safe? My question: In the poly community, what is safe sex to you?  What is okay, what is not and what is negotiable? Background: My poly partner after 5 years are both suddenly playing.  I have one secondary and she has 3 lovers, one of which could become a secondary.  I expect the circle to get bigger as well as sharing lovers.  One of the new lovers (who is the husband of woman i played with and regualrly talk to) came over on saturday night and they had what i would consider questionably safe sex after jokingly reminding her where the condoms were. Current Mood: curious (6 Comments |Comment on this)
Sunday, October 3rd, 2010
9:24 pm [swheeler11]	Looking for Interviews with Polyamorous Women Have you been or are you currently in a consensual relationship with more than one partner, where all partners know about each other? Would you describe yourself or your relationship as polyamorous? I am looking to interview women between the ages of 18-35 about their experiences in polyamorous relationships. I am especially interested in women from diverse race/ethnicities, social class backgrounds, and sexual identities. Participants must be currently living in the U.S. Interviews can be conducted in-person (if local to San Diego, California) or via e-mail. All in-person interviewees will receive a $15 gift certificate to either Amazon.com or Barnes and Noble. E-mail participants will be entered into a lottery to win one of five $15 gift certificates to either Amazon.com or Barnes and Noble. This is a research study being conducted as part of a Master's thesis through San Diego State University. Your participation would be voluntary. You will be asked questions about your experiences with polyamory and its role in your life. If interested, please contact Sarah Wheeler at swheeler@rohan.sdsu.edu with a short description about yourself (age, race/ethnicity, sexual orientation, etc.) and your current or most recent polyamorous relationship. Please also indicate whether you would like to participate via e-mail or in-person interview. Thank you for your interest! Edited to add: My study has been reviewed and approved both by my advisor, Dr. Esther Rothblum, and by the San Diego State University Institutional Review Board (IRB). You can read the study consent form here, which explains my confidentiality procedures more in-depth. __ (Mods, please let me know if this type of posting isn't allowed--I read the community rules and didn't see anything about research inquiries, but I certainly don't want to annoy anyone!) Cross-posted to poly_grrls & postqueer (21 Comments |Comment on this)
Thursday, September 30th, 2010
1:56 pm [leora]	Attempt to Start Discussion I admit it, this community is often quite dull. I keep thinking, I should post something interesting here, and then I think about my relationships and nothing that anyone who doesn't know me would want to hear or discuss comes to mind. I have amusing little relationship moments sometimes, but then I think, would that really be amusing to others without so much background context? So, here's my attempt to start a potentially interesting and useful discussion: What have you learned from your relationships that you feel is really useful and important and you want to share? If it's specific to poly, bonus points, but as most relationship issues aren't, I don't think that's necessary. Maybe someone will find something useful in that. I'll reply by comment with my own answers to keep this post short for those who do not have interest in the subject. (14 Comments |Comment on this)
3:29 am [finneganthepoet]	Life, The Universe and Everything Greetings! Finnegan here. Well, a while back,(last year) I was dating three guys, but one of them I had to chuck in the bin--he was a bloody awful ass, and was not right for me. I just wanted to update, that my goal to have and date another guy has finally been reached. Remember, I had the Dutch, Australian and Venezuelean? Well I dropped the Latin boy, and traded him up for a German Boy named Thor. Thor met me while I was with my other two BFs, and of course, being open about it, I told him the deal, and he was fine with it. Thor and I Fell instantly in love. Yeah, I liked German Boys, but never found one who was as cool as Thor. Thor and I laugh much, perhaps too much, in the eyes of My Aussie Beau, who in the newness of the new relationship, has gotten insanely jealous. Of the three, My Aussie BF is the most insecure, even though we've been together now about ten years. And of the three, my Dutch BF is the most cool about Thor. Getting my Aussie BF to relax, for him to be as relaxed as he was about my Dutch BF, that is the task. I dont do exclusive relationships, and for me and my Aussie BF to fight over this when he knows I will leave him if he insists on such drama, is absurd. Nevertheless, its in the works, a work in progress Now I have been out of the Poly Loop for quite a while. I notice that most of the relationships on here seem to be pretty Heterosexual, despite the unconventional numbers in them. In fact, this entire topic seems to be hijacked and dominated by Straights, who would lead you to believe perhaps there are no Queer Male combos, and that they dont even exist. I get the feeling now like I am on Christopher Street in the Village, a once Gay Mecca turned BabyStroller Pushing Straight Dominated Posh Playground. LOL! I just want to be the quiet example and reminder that other combinations are possible, and even interesting. I dont come on here asking for advice because my relationships are real and dont require an audience, or audience approval Now I know whats goign to happen, all you Bisexual Girls are going to protest, "but we're not straight!" I can see that. But the relationships I can identify with on here dont seem to exist--that would probably have to do with the fact that women are probably more open to open relationships than men, gay or straight, always a problem for me, at least as far as men are concerned. It seems to be, being Poly was never a lifestyle choice, it was a decision I made years ago, which helped me quickest, to separate the wheat from the chaff. It has worked out brilliantly thus far. When I even hear someone say to me "I should be enough", I have my fill of them, and swiftly move on. I dont want to be in a relationship with a bored and insecure ego. And I am not saying if a nice girl didnt come along, she wouldnt be welcome to my LoveTribe---but I am also not holding my breath for this to happen either. With a full stable full of BFs, I really do have my hands full at the moment, with many dishes spinning in the air. For me, I am just grateful finally I have nice combo of boys that work for me--all water signs, just like me, all emotionally deep and capable of going the distance with me, and none of them fakers and posers looking to get something from me that they can never have, and that I am unwilling to give. Anyhoo, thats my present update. Just wanted to touch base here Most Respectfully F i n n e g a n Current Mood: chipper (16 Comments |Comment on this)
Monday, September 13th, 2010
3:16 pm [skibbley]	UK Polyday For those in range of UK, the next UK Polyday will be in Bristol on 20th November. See: http://imakeawesome.co.uk/polyday/ A one-day event held in Bristol for everyone who knows that happy and honest relationships don't have to be monogamous, Polyday combines a day of discussions and an evening of cabaret and socialising to give you a chance to meet like-minded people, to build our community and to celebrate its diversity. (Comment on this)
Thursday, September 2nd, 2010
12:55 am [luckybear86]	Coming out It has almost been a year since my husband and I starting seeing our girlfriend. We all live together. I love them both so much I can't believe it sometimes. I have came out to everyone but my parents. My parents are divorced and have been for most of my life.  My mom is the one person I have be able to tell everything to and she has accepted me for the person I am. Even the time I came out as bisexual. I'm not sure why it is so hard for me to tell her this but it is. I'm concerning telling her this weekend. but my real problem is my father who believes Homosexuality is wrong and those people need help. He is a very closed-minded person.  I have not came out to him because of this. I want to tell him about my girlfriend for many reasons. One of which is because I am so proud to be with her I just want to share it with everyone. Also I don't want her to feel like a secret. She understands and doesn't look at that way but it still bugs me. I want a relationship with my father and I'm afraid that teling him this will kill the one we kind of have.  I want her to be accepted into our family and I know I can't make them do that, but I was wondering if there is a way to tell my two very different parents with out messing the relationship I have with them up.  Thank you  EDITED: First, I want to say thank you for all the comments. You all had very good points. Some of which I had came to myself, I just wanted to get some feedback from other people's experiences. I don't have a lot of friends that are poly so I was hoping this community would come through for my with advice. And you did.  Also, I have no intention to tell them about my kinks.  Second, Some of you asked the question why do I want to tell them or some form of it. I am very happy with my choices and I just want to tell the world. I'm finding that in this world right now my choices are not accepted and I am finding it hard to deal with it. I'm getting better and accepting that it is the way it is.  I understand I don't always get what I want and I'm accepting that a lot faster than I thought I would.  Third, When it comes to my father I had already thought this was going to be a part of my life that I would not be able to share with him. Most of you seem to agree.  I don't want to force him to accept it. I just have been wanting to come out to him for a long time. But I have realized of the years that  he is strongly against it and It would not help anyone for him to know. All of you have just enforced that thought.   As I think about it now I think I was really posting this to see if I was right and that it wasn't me being too close to the situation. I do believe that my mother will be ok with it and I'm fulling prepared for the cheating and blame and everything I have heard that get thrown in with the negative beliefs of poly relationships. She is really accepting of most things and she never judges things at face-value.  Thank you again for your wonder input and experiences and If there is anymore please add to it.   Current Mood: scared (8 Comments |Comment on this)